Find your personal style

I want to remind all Gen X women that you can have your own personal style without feeling the need to keep up with trends.

Embrace a sense of whimsy and put together looks that feel authentically you. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks—it's all about expressing yourself.

I love what they now call whimsigoth (which is basically just what we wore in the 90s!), blending a little boho, a little goth, and a touch of rock and roll.

My style icon is Stevie Nicks. Who is yours?

For many women of Generation X, finding a personal style that feels authentic, comfortable, and effortlessly put together is both a challenge and a goal.

One of the best-kept secrets to developing a personal style is realizing that even the simplest outfit—like leggings and a T-shirt—can go in vastly different directions based on a few deliberate choices!

The right scarf, a bold necklace, or even a structured jacket can elevate your look, while neglecting these details may leave you feeling invisible. This isn’t about high fashion; it’s about creating an intentional *look* that reflects who you are.

A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding Your Personal Style

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    Step 1: Start with Your Base Wardrobe

    Your base wardrobe should consist of staples you love to wear. For example:

       - Bottoms: Leggings, jeans, tailored pants.

       - Tops: Neutral T-shirts, blouses, cozy sweaters.

       - Outerwear: A versatile blazer, denim jacket, or trench coat.

       Make sure these pieces fit you well and make you feel comfortable. You don’t need a closet full of items—quality and versatility are key.

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    Step 2: Identify Your Style Vibe

      Think about what you want your style to say about you. Are you drawn to bohemian prints, sleek and minimalistic looks, or preppy chic? A helpful exercise is creating a Pinterest board or mood collage of outfits that catch your eye.

    Don’t know, that’s ok too! Skip to Step 3!

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    Step 3: Find a Style Icon

    Take inspiration from a celebrity, public figure, or even a fictional character whose style resonates with you. Whether it’s Diane Keaton’s love for structured menswear, Tracee Ellis Ross’s bold colors, or Jennifer Aniston’s timeless minimalism, look for common threads in their outfits. Note what elements stand out—patterns, color palettes, or signature pieces—and think about how to translate that into your own wardrobe.

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    Step 4: Experiment With Accessories

    Accessories are the easiest way to define your personal style. Some suggestions:

       - Statement earrings or bold necklaces for an instantly polished look.

       - A wide-brimmed hat or structured handbag to elevate casual ensembles.

       - Sneakers for a sporty vibe, ankle boots for edgy sophistication.

       - Try pairing accessories you already own with your existing outfits to discover what works.

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    Step 5: Play With Proportions

    Add interest by mixing fitted and loose pieces. For instance:

       - Pair your leggings with an oversized blouse and a cropped jacket. (We did that all the time in the 80s!)

       - Combine a flowy tunic with a fitted denim jacket or belt to cinch your waist.

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    Step 6: Develop A Quick Formula

    Find a formula that works and stick to it. For example:

       - Neutral top + leggings + statement accessory + standout footwear.

       - Jeans + graphic tee + kimono+ sneakers.

       Having these “go-to” combos reduces decision fatigue and ensures you feel polished in minutes.

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    Step 7: Assess, Adjust, Repeat

    Keep track of what outfits get you compliments or make you feel great. Those moments hold clues to what works for you and why.

    Consistency is not boring; it’s stylish. Use your favorite pieces often and mix them up with fresh accessories to keep things interesting.

Comfort and Confidence: The Secret Ingredients

Personal style isn't about perfection; it’s about *confidence*. Some days, you may spend zero effort and feel like the most stylish person in the room because your attitude shines through. Embrace those moments! Pay attention to what makes you feel good, and don’t overthink it.

With a little experimentation, a dash of inspiration from your style icons, and a few versatile pieces, you can create a look that reflects your personality while keeping things easy and manageable. Remember, style is a journey, not a destination—so enjoy the ride!

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Black t-shirt with motivational text "You're more than what they say, you're beautiful & brave."
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